Frequently Asked Questions
If you are considering an addiction intervention for your loved one, you are likely to have many questions. We have created this section to help you answer them. Keep in mind that somethings vary from situation to situation. It would be unfair to you if we used a one-size-fits-all approach when dealing with your loved one. If you reach out to directly, we can answer your question during an initial free consultation. Please don't hesitate to reach out to us.
Frequently Asked Questions About Addiction Intervention (20)
Manipulation is one of the key tactics used by those who are experiencing active addiction. In fact, most addicts employ manipulation tactics and it's almost always to do so to enable them to continue using or drinking. Families often are unaware that they are being manipulated and if they are aware, they often let their emotions and feelings for their loved one prevent them from doing the right thing. Our addiction intervention specialists know all about this type of scenario and we can help open your eyes to see even more issues that maybe you haven’t yet realized. What’s more, is that our interventionist can see right through almost any manipulation that your loved one may attempt. We’ve developed workbooks that detail specific types of manipulation tactics that exist. Our interventionists have seen it all and heard it all. Trust us to handle your loved one. We can break down their walls to get to the bottom of their behavior and help them see a way out from their addiction.
Addiction intervention services are known to have a 90% success rate. So when your loved one goes to rehab following intervention help, it's important to know that they should be focusing on themselves for the first couple of weeks. You can be of support in many ways during that time. By adding funds to a card (most treatment centers are cashless environments but provide prepaid card accounts that you can load funds on to) or sending them clothing, hygiene products, or books in the mail. Any good treatment center is going to involve you and your family in the substance abuse treatment process. Although, it might not be right away so that your loved one has time to settle in and focus on their own recovery and getting through the difficult first couple of weeks. The reason is that family involvement in addiction treatment (at the right time and in the right way) has been proven to produce the best results. People who have had their family participate in their treatment in a healthy way, such as via family therapy or groups has shown to have a higher success rate. Community and support is everything for those who are in recovery from addiction. While you don't want to condone them while they are experiencing active addiction, you definitely want to show your support when they are doing the right thing and engaging in their treatment. If you have any other specific questions in mind regarding this, please ask one of our professional addiction interventionists.
Many people ask how long does rehab take. The truth is, this varies from person to person and from treatment center to treatment center. To get the most positive experience and the ability to change your life long term, addiction experts agree that you need at least 90 days. However, this isn't always possible. Every person's history is different and addictions are different. Some cannot afford to stay for more than 30 days and that's understandable. Any treatment center that we work with is going to advise a 60-120 day stay if possible. The only reason that this is advised is that a good amount of time in treatment can help your loved one achieve long-term recovery. Some treatment centers that we work with have independent living programs where your loved one can live for up to a year after they complete treatment. Just remember that there are options for each situation. Even if your loved one is unable to stay in treatment for a prolonged amount of time, there are options. Call us today to discuss this more in-depth and we can help by giving you an idea based on your loved one's situation. Nothing is set in stone and there is treatment available for all needs.
There is no one-size-fits-all answer to this question. It truthfully depends on your loved one's scenario and different factors. Age is obviously being the biggest one. There is no way that it would be a good idea to have young children in the middle of an addiction intervention. Young children needed to be shielded from the addiction as much as possible and it's likely they already have been impacted. However, teenagers, young adults, and adults can and should participate in their parent's intervention if the interventionist feels that it will be beneficial. Of course, everything hinges on the type of relationship your loved one has.
This is yet again another reason why an addiction intervention process is done over 2-days. Our addiction interventionist needs to know all of the important details related to your family. When they are well informed, they can make the best decision on how to proceed.
If you are wondering if it would be beneficial to your loved one's situation, give us a call. We can discuss some of the facts, learn more about your situation and move forward from there.
Luckily, there's a list of 11 criteria for addiction that you can refer to for solid answers. No matter what your loved one says, these addiction criteria do not lie and they have been developed as a guide by the professionals. Take a sigh of relief and look at the facts.
The 11 Criteria are:
- Using in dangerous situations or putting themselves in dangerous situations due to their use
- Social/ Interpersonal Problems related to use
- Neglecting their life responsibilities and their family roles
- When they stop using, they experience withdrawals
- They have built a tolerance to the drugs
- They have the need to use a higher amount of drugs or have more drinks
- Many attempts to try and stop using that have been unsuccessful
- Spends a great deal of their time using or drinking
- Has experienced physical or psychological problems because of their use
- Stopped engaging in favorite activities
- Experiences cravings when they are not drinking or using
If your loved one meets any of the above addiction criteria, this could be indicative of a problem. Please give us a call today so we can help you get to the bottom of your loved one's situation.
A lot of people ask, am I to blame for my loved one's addiction? No, you are not. One thing that many families do not realize is that addiction doesn't discriminate. Addiction can happen in any family. Each family has its own history. Some families have had more traumatic situations than others. But even in the most seemingly healthy and loving families, addiction occurs. The sad thing is that it's almost always the tendency of the family to internalize their loved one's addiction. Meaning that they take the blame. This is a dangerous thing to do.
If you feel that you are to blame for your loved one's addiction, you may also feel that you have to fix it. For many people, this prompts isolation and inability to seek help. Please know that no matter what your family's past is - your loved one's addiction is not your fault.
To move forward and actually make real progress, it's important to put all of the blame and shame behind you. Your loved one can also use this shame and guilt as leverage to manipulate you. Enabling is usually the result. If this sounds like your situation, please reach out to us today over the phone. We will give you a free consultation.
The worst possible mistake a family can make is believing that they have to fix their loved one's drug and alcohol problem on their own. This is an absolute myth and causes unneeded pain and heartache. When a family believes that they must solve the addiction on their own and in secret, it isolates them. Of course, it can be shameful and embarrassing for others to find out that you have addiction going on in your family.
This is exactly why it is so important to reach out. Keeping the addiction to yourself and trying to fix it at home is not going to work. The reason is that addiction is an actual progressive disease and a disorder of the brain. You wouldn't try to treat diabetes on your own at home without consulting a doctor first. You definitely wouldn't try to treat cancer on your own at home either.
It may sound like a ridiculous comparison, but it's not. Addiction is a disease that can be fatal. It is classified as a brain disorder in the DSM-5. If your loved one had any other kind of medical condition that was fatal, you wouldn't hide and try to fix it on your own. You would be getting him or her the help they so desperately need. Addiction is just as deadly, so please realize that you need to treat it the same as any other life-threatening disease.
Fighting against the tendency to be mentally and emotionally affected by the stigma of addiction is difficult. However, there are those who do not stigmatize addiction. There are people out there that understand addiction and the fact that it doesn't discriminate. Get in contact with us and we can point you towards support group resources full of amazing people who are willing to stand beside you during this hard time.
The short answer is, yes. An addiction intervention can still help your loved one if they have violent tendencies. It can't be stressed enough that the reason why the process of addiction intervention takes 2 days is so the interventionist can fully prepare for situations like this. Day 1 in the addiction intervention process would be the day where our interventionist learns all about your loved one's violent tendencies. The addiction interventionist may suggest a different approach that deviates from the standard procedure. An approach that is fully thought all the way through.
Even if your loved one has the tendency to get violent, they still deserve to be helped. In fact, their violent tendencies may be in direct relation to their drug or alcohol use. Our addiction interventionists will pay great attention to detail, ensuring that no stone is left unturned. Contact us for more information.
No. Our addiction intervention specialist will be flying to the treatment center with your loved one. Our interventionists understand that addiction is a disease that is hard to face for some people. The thought of having to stop using or drinking can be very scary. That is why it is our standard protocol to have our addiction interventionist fly with your loved one and walk with him or her to the doors of the addiction treatment center. Leaving your loved one on the plane alone if they are not fully willing to go can result in your loved one decide against addiction treatment at the last minute.
Our interventionist will be there with your loved one as a companion and a friend. Someone who wants to see them on the other side of this addiction. Keeping your loved one comfortable and optimistic on the way to addiction treatment is very important. With Care Recovery Services, you never have to worry about your loved one being alone throughout this process. If you have any more questions that you need to ask about the addiction intervention process, give us a call. We are ready to help!
If your loved one is showing extreme signs of a seriously progressing addiction, feeling an urgency to address the situation is natural. Sometimes, families want us to come down and stage the addiction intervention in one day. We always let families know that while we understand the intense urgency they feel to get their loved one into treatment, fast and unprepared addiction interventions are likely to have poor results. Of course, there are a few select individuals who are at a greater risk of death or need to be caught at a certain time who would need same-day intervention. But if there is time to get you and your family fully prepared for the intervention it’s best to take advantage of that.
An intervention takes place over the course of two days so that we can all be adequately prepared. While our interventionists have decades of experience in addiction intervention, we know that no two persons are the same and no two families are the same. It’s best that our interventionist knows everything they can about your loved one and your family. The first day of the intervention process is the preparation day. Our interventionist will go through an entire workbook with your family teaching you all about the process of intervention from beginning to end. How to talk to your loved one, what an intervention is really about at its heart, who should be in the intervention, who shouldn’t be in the intervention, and more.
During this preparation day, our addiction interventionist will ask you and your family some tough questions. No matter what you do, answer them with honesty. The advice and suggestions that our addiction interventionists give you could save your loved one’s life. We stand by the protocol that we have in place to have the intervention over a 2-day process. If you have more questions, do not hesitate to reach out to us.
We can help you find an addiction treatment center for your loved one. In fact, we can do all of the heavy liftings when it comes to finding the right place for you. If you have a certain type of insurance that we are unable to work with, we will help you find someone who can. We won’t refuse your call for not being able to help you. We can still consult with you and give you advice. We want to make a difference in your life and an impact on the addiction problem in our country. We have lists of resources available to suit the need of any individual – that includes you and your family. Let us help you!
Enabling an addict is “loving them to death”. In order for an individual’s addiction to progress and continue, there usually has to be an enabler in the picture. Obviously, almost no one would do things that they knew were contributing to the death of their loved one. Unfortunately, that is what enabling does – it contributes to their addiction and sometimes to their death.
If you find yourself enabling, it’s not because you’re a bad person. If you remember anything you read here, remember that addiction takes advantage of the goodness of people. No one is immune from that – unless they have the guidance of a qualified professional. A person who is addicted will exploit and use their loved ones for a place to live, for money, for a job, the list goes on. They will lie to you, steal from you, and manipulate to get what they want. That’s the nature of addiction. That's what makes addiction a monster.
If you comply with all or even some of their requests, you are enabling their drug use. Of course, you do not want your loved one on the street, without money, or in jail. The problem is that if their addiction continues, this is exactly what will happen anyway. It will get to the point where they will experience consequences that you can't shield them from. You and your family can only take so much and one day, you will reach your breaking point.
Even though it goes against our very nature to love and protect our loved ones, addiction sometimes requires the opposite approach. Sometimes giving them a place to live, extra money, a car, and other necessities actually make the problem worse.
Our interventionist will work with your family to get to the bottom of how your loved one’s addiction is continuing uninterrupted. We can help you see the decisions that you and your family need to make to move forward. The good thing is that the person who enables the most also has the most leverage when it comes to getting them into treatment. Our team of interventionist will jump on that opportunity to raise the chances of them agreeing to treatment.
An addict manipulates everyone and everything around them. If you believe that you are immune to the manipulations, you’re not. Even the toughest families with the most healthy boundaries can be turned upside down. It’s highly likely that at this point you have been conditioned to react and treat your loved one in a certain way that allows them to continue using drugs.
Addicts employ techniques such as guilt, blame, shame, or self-victimization. This can include blaming everyone around them for the addiction or constantly playing the victim - bringing up past hurts to justify and rationalize why they use.
This is just the nature of addiction. When a person is addicted, they trick themselves and others into believing these things. Instead of realizing that they are addicted, they protect their substance use and attack everything else around them.
An interventionist can help you get to the bottom of the family dynamics of enabling. They can help you learn to have better boundaries. Once you know that a big part of getting your loved one to accept help is to stop enabling behaviors, it is our hope that you do what you need to do to raise the chances of getting them into treatment.
A dangerous and false myth spread around about addiction and recovery is the “hitting bottom” myth. Some people truly believe that in order for a person to benefit from treatment or enter into recovery, they need to hit bottom. When families believe this myth, they take a step back and let their loved one continue to use and put their lives at risk.
Once you have an educated understanding of addiction as a disease, you will know that there are forces at work that make it unlikely for your loved one to get help on their own. If you think things can’t get any worse, they absolutely can and will get worse. You may think that once they lose their job, they will hit bottom. You may think that once they get evicted, they will hit bottom. Unfortunately, these devastating consequences happen to many addicts. After they happen, some do realize their need to get help. But the majority of the time, they keep using or drinking. Some people even use the lost job or home as fuel to keep using.
The mind of an addict is a strange place where logic and sound reasoning are severely lacking. This is not an insult to an addict, it's just the reality of addiction's nature.
Thinking objectively, let’s consider some of the things that can happen to an addict that most would consider “hitting bottom”. There’s homelessness, loss of their families, loss of their job, loss of their career, and the list goes on. For any normal person, this would be a nightmare.
At the end of the day let’s not forget that addiction is a disease that quite literally hijacks the survival centers of the brain. If you want to understand and help your loved one, you need to be educated. If you are visiting our site and considering our services, it’s likely that your loved one is already beyond control.
The best thing that you can do for your loved one is a step in and intervene. Studies show that early intervention in drug and alcohol addiction is the key to long-lasting recovery. It doesn’t mean that your loved one can’t enter into recovery if they have been using for years or decades, it just means that the earlier, the better.
You don’t want your loved one at a point where they have to bounce back from major life-altering losses. Hitting bottom can also mean prison sentences and sometimes, hitting bottom means death – from which there is no coming back.
No, the initial call doesn’t cost anything. The initial call is our first contact with you and your family. During this call, we will ask questions to get a better understanding of your situation. We can do a consultation with you on the best way for your family to move forward. We will also give you an overview of the intervention process and answer any questions that you may have.
The initial call is completely free, totally confidential, and all about us getting to know how we can best serve you. You are under no obligation to retain our services solely based on the call. If we feel that you should take a different approach to the problem, then we would do our best to direct you to someone who can help you do that.
Depending on where you and your family is located, we could potentially get someone out same-day or arrange travel plans to arrive within 24-48 hours. There may be certain situations where this is not possible, but we will have a solid plan in place regardless. You can trust us to get to you as soon as possible.
There are many models of intervention. The A&E show intervention utilizes many different interventionists who all use slightly different models. All interventionists perfect their model with the same goal in mind, help the family help their loved one. The reality is that interventions need to be tailor-made to every family.
Different models work for different situations. The show intervention follows an addict around for a week before the intervention itself. We do not do that. Most addicts know something is going on as most of them know what the show Intervention on A&E is also. Substances do not make them uneducated.
It is oftentimes harder to do an intervention on an addict or alcoholic who is expecting it. They have had time to prepare what they are going to say so they don't have to get help. What you see on A&E's show intervention are just the parts that are interesting for television. All of the hard work and planning that goes on behind the scenes is rarely if ever shown.
Out of the tens of thousands of interventions requested by them, they only do a select few every season. You are more likely to get an intervention sooner and help your loved one quicker by hiring on your own interventionist.
Absolutely. We have seen individuals from all walks of life, from diverse backgrounds and histories recover from drugs and alcohol. As long as your loved one is breathing, there is hope!
Long-term drug users will surely have their challenges. If your loved one has been using for years, even decades, that is all the more reason to take action and stage an addiction intervention now. Don’t wait any longer to step in. Your loved one needs to know that despite their past, they can have a drug-free future.
Your loved one may believe there is no hope. But addiction is also a deceptive disease. It deceives the addict into believing that there is no going back for them and that their fate is sealed. If your loved one continues believing this and never hears the message that recovery is possible, they are unlikely to make any actual changes.
An addiction intervention is not a hostile confrontation and treatment is not a punishment. An addiction intervention is a place where we share a message of hope. Carrying this message to your loved one can save their lives. Whatever you do, don’t give up on them. Even if they are a long-term drug user.
Despite all of your loved one’s circumstances, no matter how bad their addiction, no matter how long they have been using - recovery is possible. Deep down, it is likely that they have the desire to stop using. Deep down, they know that addiction is ruining their lives. Let’s open your loved one’s eyes together. Long-term drug users can absolutely enter into long-term recovery.
Each person is unique. Depending on your loved one’s history and personality, you might think that an addiction intervention is going to be a waste of time. You may feel that there’s no way they are going to agree to go to treatment. Perhaps you have asked them many times over the course of months, years, even decades.
You may even feel embarrassed to allow an addiction professional to help in the first place. Some feel that allowing us to help is going to make it worse. Of course, this is exactly why the process of addiction intervention exists.
We have never worked with a case where the person was willing to go to treatment before the intervention started. Every family we talk to struggles to see how an intervention can be successful when they were not. But numbers don't lie. A professionally driven intervention process carries over 90% success rates. When families on their own are usually only successful 20% of the time.
That is because addiction intervention itself is not only about getting them to say yes. We must assist the entire family in changing the dynamics around the addiction to make treatment appear more comfortable. We often say that the family MUST hit bottom before the addict/alcoholic will. Addiction interventions go wrong when the family participating are resistant to the suggestions of the interventionist. Sometimes, the family can be even more resistant than the addict/alcoholic.
Bringing in an interventionist sets a clear example to your loved one that you need help as well. Addiction intervention grants families peace and closure. This happens regardless of whether or not the person enters a treatment program immediately.
An intervention with a willing and participating family is never a waste of time. But even if your loved one says no, a drug and alcohol interventionist will prepare your family with the tools they need to push back. Addiction intervention is strategically planned with your loved one’s personality, tendencies, and history in mind. We consider all options.
Every person we have ever intervened on has been lost, in denial, and adamantly refused treatment. Some visibly high, adamantly deny the fact that they used just beforehand. This is why you are getting us involved, intervention is our full-time profession.
But let’s just say that your loved one is one of the 10% of people who refuse to go to treatment…
This does not mean the intervention process is over. During the planning phases of the intervention, we are going to help your family identify a set of healthy boundaries. These boundaries will assist them in hitting bottom. Please note that "hitting bottom" is not always necessary for a person to seek and benefit from rehab, but for most stubborn, it's sometimes the only way.
We will need to help you to change all of the dynamics around the addiction. We must allow them to hit the bottom, but do it in a safe and controlled manner. When they are able to feel the uncomfortable nature of their addiction with no one to absorb the emotions of hitting bottom for them, they will enter a program.
Things will not continue on the way they have been before the intervention.
By getting your entire group on a path of recovery through support groups, you will naturally pull them up with you just as easily as they were pulling you in the other direction. Recovery for your family is going to take effort, just like their recovery will.
We will continue to guide and support you through this difficult time. You will never be alone in this battle again. As long as your family continues to be willing to follow our support, you will have closure to their addiction.
Most likely, your loved one will follow suit and get themselves into rehab or into a program.
In theory, a family is capable of staging their own intervention but is unlikely to be successful without a third-party, non-biased professional present to guide you through the process.
An interventionist carries very specific training, experience, expertise, and they are not emotionally attached to the person needing help. In most cases, the very reason why the person needs an intervention in the first place is because of family. Addicts teach their family to enable their addiction over the years. It's easy to see how they quickly can become part of the problem.
Many families feel that they are helping the person to stay alive, but they are shielding them for consequences. When the family does this, the person will never understand they need treatment.
A professionally driven intervention is about teaching the family how to allow the addict/alcoholic to "bottom out". But doing so in a safe, loving, and controlled manner rather than waiting for the legal or medical system to do it for them.
Your family will learn how to help your loved one without enabling them, how to set healthy boundaries with them without crossing the line into tough love. When you bring in an interventionist, it is unlikely that your loved one will be able to manipulate the situation. The reason that manipulation works is because you love them and they know it.
Interventionists are trained to recognize manipulation tactics and prepare you and your family in advance with strategies to respond to them. It’s likely that your loved one will try anything and everything to get themselves out of the situation.
With an interventionist taking the lead your family will be prepared for anything they might do or say. The beautiful part of addiction is that the behavior is highly predictable. A patient is absolutely a unique person, but their addiction is not.
A Professional interventionist will also educate your family on the disease of addiction. Understanding how addiction affects the brain and body will help you empathize with your loved one’s condition. You will also better understand their dire need for treatment.
An interventionist can keep things balanced, fair, and realistic. They are specifically trained to be sure that the approach does not end in an argument or emotional blowout. They will take the role of keeping this a kind, loving, and firm approach. They have helped many families get their loved ones into treatment. This experience can prove to be absolutely vital.